Wednesday, November 18, 2015

What makes a man? - 11 Myths

My goal of writing this post isn't selling you my definition of “man”, it is rather to challenge you on how’ll you define “man”.

Through the years I’ve seen most of the people’s belief of what a “man” is.

Here are some of the myths I’ve compiled.

What if I’ve told you that?

1. Your beard doesn’t make you a man… 

If you're rocking a beard but can't manage basic outdoors man skills, you're a fraud!

2. Your tattoos don’t make you a man. 

Each tattoo has personal meaning. Each person will tell you that the tattoos are an important expression of their identity.

Attitude towards body art is dynamically changing. After all, you don't want to end up with a permanent tattoo you're going to hate and regret for the rest of your life.

The Lord plainly, clearly, strongly, and without a doubt – condemns the tattoo.
        Read (Leviticus 19:28).

3. Having a dozen of piercings or big holes on your ears doesn’t make you a man

Typically and historically, it is women who wear earrings.
 In ancient Israel, a slave (“servant”) who wished to remain with his master had his ear pierced. Certainly no one today wishes to be an indentured servant!

        See (Deut. 15:16-17; also Ex. 21:5-6).

4. Smoking hundredths of cigarettes doesn’t make you a man. (picture?)

We already know how hazardous smoking to our health, It causes heart disease and stroke (Young people continues to smoke because they think they are ‘Astig!’ when doing so.)

As young people become adults, they are more likely to smoke if they misuse alcohol or drugs or live in poverty. The reasons for smoking differ from person to person. The idea that people smoke cigarettes to help ease the signs and symptoms of stress is known as ‘self-medication’.
 Research into smoking and stress has shown that instead of helping people to relax, smoking actually increases anxiety and tension.
 -          Asserted from World Health Organization

5. Drinking until the break of dawn doesn’t make you a man

The research on alcohol's effect on health suggests both harm and benefits. But before you down an entire bottle of celebratory bubbly, bear in mind that moderation is the key to booze's benefits. Study also shows that it will do your stomach good and help you to get over your frequent spells of illness.

Studies show that red wine is known for its potential to protect against heart disease; red wine also aids digestive health, through probiotics,.

Remember: Too much of everything is bad, worst it can make you sick and poor so drink moderately. –See (1 Timothy 5:23, Proverbs 23:20-21)


P.S.: If you drink, don’t drive, if you drive don't drink. B-) 

6. Your big muscles and abs doesn’t define your masculinity

Having those big abdominal muscles is considerably a man’s asset but is his inner being is the most significant part of him.
“Physical looks can be deceiving.” –See (1 Samuel 16:7, Proverbs 31:30)

7. Real man doesn’t cry.

Jesus Christ does cry.  –See (John 11:35)

Maybe the best line for that is “Men don’t cry but Real one does”, he is simply a human bundle-of-responses to primitive emotions and drive, and crying is only part of human emotions...  It’s the plastic man who doesn’t cry. Real man does cry even in front of a girl.  Believe me when a man cries he feels better. :D

8. Real man doesn’t apologize.

Real man never fights without any reason; sincere apology is often an effective way to repair a broken relationship. –Read (Matthew 5:24)

If he offends someone’s feelings or knew he has done something wrong he doesn’t hesitates asking apology.

The key to good relationships is learning the apology language of your spouse and being willing to speak it. Perhaps you’ve been saying “I’m sorry,” when your spouse needs to hear “I was wrong.” When you speak the primary apology language of your spouse, you make it easier for him or her to genuinely forgive you. When you fail to speak their language, it makes forgiveness difficult because they are not sure you are genuinely apologizing... - Asserted from “The 5 love languages.” - Dr. Gary Chapman.

Remember:  "The first to apologize is the bravest."


9. How many girls you have slept with and make love with them…

If you are a Christian, you know that the Bible tells you to “abstain from fornication.” (1 Thessalonians 4:3)

Fornication is an elicit sexual relationship outside marriage. Sexual intercourse was intended for married couples, God condemn that act, he hates the act, it was the act of lawlessness, worst it was classified as acts of sinners or evil doers and doers of it doesn’t inherit God’s kingdom, you probably don’t what to be called that way right? –Read (1 Corinthians 6:9)

10. How many women you date in a week.

In many lands, dating is viewed as a means if romantic entertainment, a fun activity. Dating thus takes many forms.

 But dating should have an honorable purpose—to help a young man and woman determine if they want to get married to each other. Granted, some of your peers might take a casual view of dating. Perhaps they simply enjoy being with a special friend of the opposite sex, without any intention of marriage. Some might even view such a friend as little more than a trophy or an accessory to be seen with in public to boost their own self-esteem.

If you date with no intention of marriage, you are acting like a child who plays with a new toy and then discard it.

Clearly, when you date someone, you’re affecting that person’s feelings. So be sure that your intentions are honorable. Think: Would you like somebody to playing your feelings as if they were some child’s toy—to be picked up for a moment and then quickly abandoned?

 Real man doesn’t have lots of girlfriends. He has a deep respect for girls, and he is a gentleman.

11. How many women you gave pregnant
There's one speaker I look up who says - "February 14 is the most stupid day in our time", guess how many girls lose their virginity on that day, think about that?

Because there are some loser boys who will going to convince some loser girls (I'm not saying all) and say "if you truly love me you’ll going to give me “your everything” since tomorrow/today is Valentine’s Day, Independence Day, all souls day, all of the holidays…

For Girls: How to determine a loser boy? You'll know it in the first place that there's something wrong –
  1. They take advantage...
  2. They're exploring you like you're national geographic…

It's your life...  Be careful, "Once there is a mistake, lifetime’s regret." 

For Boys: What kind of a man are you if you leave a girl in times she needed you the most?

“If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything. Real man has a stand.”

I just listed 11 myths that's what I known at this moment, maybe you had some myths too... feel free to add your thoughts and please leave a comment for some myths you know. :D

Photos are all taken from Google images

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